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Teach Your Grandchildren Important Lessons About Money

You may have dealt with money for more than half a century. You understand hard work, following a budget, saving money, and spending wisely. You possess a wealth of financial wisdom—at least in comparison to your grandchildren.

As a grandparent, you can provide your grandchildren with sound, sage advice. Will they accept and heed it? Yes, researchers say. In fact, a survey of more than 1,000 young adults found that most (85%) were receptive to financial discussions with their grandparents.[i] However, just 8% of grandparents said they actually talk with their grandchildren about finances.

Nearly a third of grandparents said they thought they could influence their grandchildren’s financial decisions. The study also indicated grandparents are able to shape grandchildren’s decisions more than grandparents realize. Nearly three-quarters of grandchildren said their grandparents’ financial advice would influence how they save and spend money.

So, how do you do it? How do you talk to your grandchildren about money? Here are several ways to engage in fruitful discussions:[ii]

Just say no to gifts (sometimes).

Giving gifts or investing in college funds is nice and may provide the catalyst for a bright future. But when money is tight, often the best approach is talking about the value of money. Discussions help develop the sense of money’s value and a good work ethic in your grandchildren. Moreover, you may “hire” your grandchildren to do chores or household projects; you can then pay them an hourly wage for the work, like they do it in the real world.

Story time: “In my day…”

You first must determine whether you have a captive audience. If your grandchildren are interested, tell them stories about how you earned money as a teenager, how you paid for your school, and how you saved money. If your audience’s attention doesn’t waver or wane, you can segue into goal setting and saving money for college. You may also delve into the difference between what they need and what they want.

Go to the store.

This would be a good time to discuss history. You can explain how prices have gone up on products and how selections have changed. A loaf of bread, for example, cost 25 cents in 1970.[iii] A pound of hamburger meat cost 45 cents in 1960. Those types of discussions give children a wider perspective on the role and value of money in our lives.

Go high tech.

Grandparents who live a ways from their grandchildren can use video chatting or other methods to keep in touch. This will enable you to keep the conversation alive and to continue conveying your wisdom.

Serve as an example.

Maybe having a conversation isn’t the best approach or it’s not the right time. However, grandparents’ life stories can provide compelling lessons on the value of money and responsible financial management. Your story—in a family novel, at family gatherings, in other settings, or through other formats—may serve as powerful lessons later in your grandchildren’s lives. Parts of your story may include getting your first job, your first car, or even your house. After all, the most important legacy you can leave to your grandchildren resides in your heart, not your bank account.

If you have any questions about money management or would like help reviewing your financial strategy, give us a call at 800.929.1001. We’re happy to talk. Visit our website here.

Investment advisory services are offered through CapSouth Partners, Inc., dba CapSouth Wealth Management, an independent registered Investment Advisory firm. Information provided by sources deemed to be reliable. CapSouth does not guarantee the accuracy or completeness of the information.  This material has been prepared for planning purposes only and is not intended as specific tax or legal advice.  Tax and legal laws are often complex and frequently change.  Please consult your tax or legal advisor to discuss your specific situation before making any decisions that may have tax or legal consequences.

This article contains external links to third party content (content hosted on sites unaffiliated with CapSouth Partners). The policies and procedures governing these third party sites may differ from those effective on the CapSouth company website, as outlined in these Disclaimers. As such, CapSouth makes no representations whatsoever regarding any third party content/sites that may be accessible directly or indirectly from the CapSouth website. Linking to these third party sites in no way implies an endorsement or affiliation of any kind between CapSouth and any third party, including legal authorization to use any trademark, trade name, logo, or copyrighted materials belonging to either entity.

[i] https://www.tiaa.org/public/about-tiaa/news-press/press-releases/pressrelease512.html

[ii] https://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/articles/2014/09/24/grandparents-talk-to-your-grandchildren-about-money

[iii] http://www.thepeoplehistory.com/70yearsofpricechange.html

Monitor Household Finances with Monthly Meetings

Monitor Your Household Finances with Monthly Meetings

Communication is the process through which we transfer information to each other. Although modern forms of communication have increased (emails, texts, letters, social media), connecting with each other is still at the foundation of our humanity. We just have to talk.

Family communication, in particular, molds us together in profound and lasting ways. Without it, the family would inevitably disintegrate.

Communications simple secrets

Effective family communication requires every member to pay attention to what others are saying, how they’re saying it, and to identify the feelings behind words and gestures.[i] Genuine listening is the most overlooked aspect of good communication. It’s the part that makes communication two-way.

Talking about money

Every household has a budget of sorts. It may be a rigid, tightly structured, highly detailed plan or a more carefree, open-ended, and vague financial construct that gets little oversight or review. Or, more likely, it’s something somewhere in between. While budgets or financial strategies are often assembled based on personalities and preferences, they do require mutual input from family members.

An appropriate division of labor that designates who manages the budget or who pays the bills is important. But an arrangement where one partner or family member oversees the finances while the others are kept in the dark is unproductive and unhealthy.

Communication (and consensus) is necessary to bring vitality and direction to families and finances.

While simply discussing family finances is good, budget meetings become even more effective when they’re done with regularity. Holding monthly (or more frequent) meetings will help coalesce your visions and shape the goals of your family.

Here are nine steps for a successful family financial meeting:[ii]

  1. Schedule it. Put the meeting on your calendar. It should not be spontaneous. Hold it at a mutually convenient and appropriate time.
  2. Set the timer. You’re not running a marathon or a congressional hearing. Make it short—30 minutes or so—and sweet.
  3. Eliminate distractions. Turn off the TV. Put your phone away. Make sure the chores are done. Make your meeting an investment of time.
  4. Include some delicious distractions. We’re talking snacks, which make meetings more enticing.
  5. Go prepared. Bring pens, papers, or whatever other tools you’ll need to develop and monitor your family budget and finances. You can use online budgeting tools or apps.
  6. Order in the court. Or the budget meeting. Follow a progressive meeting plan, such as listing income first. Then proceed by dividing and segmenting money into individual categories: donations, utilities, debt, fun stuff.
  7. Allow for objections. You’re trying to create a team plan to financial management. You may have other priorities and preferences than other participants in the meetings. Discuss them and reach an agreement. Find ways to compromise.
  8. Watch the clock. If you’re having trouble or facing challenges, consider addressing contentious matters at another meeting. Stick to your allotted time.
  9. Rules of engagement. Budgets are wonderful tools to reach your goal, but without a way to track spending, it’s just a piece of paper or online platform. Put your budget to work for you by making sure you plug in income and spending numbers regularly and consistently.

If you would like to discuss your current financial plans or budgeting strategies, please contact us at (800) 929-1001 or visit our website.

Investment advisory services are offered through CapSouth Partners, Inc., dba CapSouth Wealth Management, an independent registered Investment Advisory firm. Information provided by sources deemed to be reliable. CapSouth does not guarantee the accuracy or completeness of the information.  This material has been prepared for planning purposes only and is not intended as specific tax or legal advice.  Tax and legal laws are often complex and frequently change.  Please consult your tax or legal advisor to discuss your specific situation before making any decisions that may have tax or legal consequences.

This article contains external links to third party content (content hosted on sites unaffiliated with CapSouth Partners). The policies and procedures governing these third party sites may differ from those effective on the CapSouth company website, as outlined in these Disclaimers. As such, CapSouth makes no representations whatsoever regarding any third party content/sites that may be accessible directly or indirectly from the CapSouth website. Linking to these third party sites in no way implies an endorsement or affiliation of any kind between CapSouth and any third party, including legal authorization to use any trademark, trade name, logo, or copyrighted materials belonging to either entity.

[i] https://pubs.ext.vt.edu/350/350-092/350-092.html

[ii] https://www.daveramsey.com/blog/how-to-have-a-family-budget-meeting

Recovering From Financial Mistakes

History tells of investors leaping from tall buildings during the Great Depression.[i] It was Black Thursday, October 24, 1929,[ii] that newspaper columnist Will Rogers wrote: “When Wall Street took that tail spin, you had to stand in line to get a window to jump out of.”

Obviously, unforeseen financial (specifically, investment) mistakes were made, which led to the nation’s decade-long economic depression. Human history is filled with tragic tales that have led to some unfortunate decisions. But using tall buildings is certainly no solution to remedy a financial mistake. The adage is true: We all make mistakes, many of which are not necessarily our fault. However, you can easily trace back responsibility for mistakes such as buying a home that is too expensive, making ill-advised investments, not adequately saving for emergencies or retirement, or going into severe credit card debt.

So, how do you recover from financial mistakes?

Forgiveness is divine. Especially as it applies to your situation. Forgive yourself. You’re human. You made a mistake. Put it behind you. It’s in the past. Now plot your way forward.

Reexamine your financial condition. How bad is your situation? What are the potential long-term consequences? What steps can you take to mitigate the damage?

Here are some questions to help you analyze your current situation:[iii]

  • What are your current assets?
  • What do you owe?
  • What’s your income and expenditures?
  • What’s your credit score?
  • Are there any long-term ramifications?Here is a useful system for setting goals using the acronym SMART. Your goals should be:

Set goals. The financial mistake is now behind you. Now is the time to develop a road map into your future. Where do you want to go? What do you want to accomplish? Plot your course carefully and studiously.

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Attainable
  • Realistic
  • Timely

Make an action plan. The plan must have some balance and a visible outlet. Paying off debt may be a worthy goal, but sometimes it can be no fun. Only the very disciplined and ambitious should pursue single-focus goals. A mix of goals builds more longevity into your plan. Positive goals, like saving for retirement, provide measurable reinforcement. You can see your progress.

Time for reflection. Making your way forward to recover from past financial mistakes certainly feels right. But watch for those old road signs, the traps and temptations that led you astray in the first place. Monitor your behavior and emotions so that you can avoid falling into the same patterns that led to the bad decisions and the negative consequences.

If you would like to discuss your current financial plans and goals, we’re happy to talk. Contact us at 800.929.1001 or visit our website.

Investment advisory services are offered through CapSouth Partners, Inc., dba CapSouth Wealth Management, an independent registered Investment Advisory firm. Information provided by sources deemed to be reliable. CapSouth does not guarantee the accuracy or completeness of the information.  This material has been prepared for planning purposes only and is not intended as specific tax or legal advice.  Tax and legal laws are often complex and frequently change.  Please consult your tax or legal advisor to discuss your specific situation before making any decisions that may have tax or legal consequences.

This article contains external links to third party content (content hosted on sites unaffiliated with CapSouth Partners). The policies and procedures governing these third party sites may differ from those effective on the CapSouth company website, as outlined in these Disclaimers. As such, CapSouth makes no representations whatsoever regarding any third party content/sites that may be accessible directly or indirectly from the CapSouth website. Linking to these third party sites in no way implies an endorsement or affiliation of any kind between CapSouth and any third party, including legal authorization to use any trademark, trade name, logo, or copyrighted materials belonging to either entity.

[i] https://www.history.com/topics/great-depression

[ii] https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/opinions/1987/10/25/the-jumpers-of-29/17defff9-f725-43b7-831b-7924ac0a1363/?utm_term=.b27d573c3cf3

[iii] https://financialmentor.com/financial-advice/financial-crisis/6-steps-to-recover-from-financial-disaster/2365

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